When sex with a new partner is good, it’s usually really good. It’s hot, frequent, exciting, and everything about them is a discovery of delights. When you start to fall for one another, sex shifts to a whole new level of pleasure, with deeper connection and more satisfaction emotionally as well as physically. But if all the sex is good, how can you tell if a guy is actually falling for you and more invested in the sex he’s having with you, rather than just a casually fantastic time? While no man is alike, just as no woman is like any other woman, there are some specific behaviours that can indicate you’re not just a good time girl to him, but in his heart as well as his bed.
1. He kisses you more often, all over your body and for longer
Kissing is very intimate and when a man kisses you a great deal you can tell he cares for you a great deal. In essence he shows his feelings by showering you with his desire for you and to show you how he appreciates all of you. Kissing is a shared enjoyment, but to shower you with kisses everywhere, and to give you long, lingering deep kisses means he wants to show you he’s into every inch of you.
2. He takes his time with you
A selfish lover, or a man who is only interested in physical sex may not spend an extended period of time on foreplay. He may do just enough to get you aroused, and then jump straight to intercourse. But a man who takes time to indulge in foreplay and then doesn’t just roll over and go to sleep, but holds you and bonds afterwards, is one who puts your needs alongside his own as equally important if not more so. That’s a man falling in love!
3. He wants to explore new things with you
When a man is interested in what’s between your ears and not just between your legs, you’ve found a man who is truly interested in you as a person and not only a lover. And when he shows he’s curious about what you want in bed, and not just what he wants, you can be sure you’ve got him excited and intrigued about you and understanding you… not just his own pleasures.
4. He touches you all over and shows effort to find your erogenous zones
A giving, attentive and generous lover – not just one time, but at least most of the time, is one who is interested in a mutual connection and wants your relationship to transcend the sex-only zone. When the sex between you is about what you like to receive, and he touches you all over, where you like it and how you like it – because he’s put in the effort to find that out and learn it – then you can tell you have a man interested in you, and who desires to be with you, and not just a casual affair.
5. He’s relaxed with you
When he laughs and relaxes with you inside the bedroom (and not just on dates) and isn’t seriously trying to impress you every time, then you can tell he enjoys your company and isn’t rushing out to be somewhere else right after sex. It’s a solid sign he likes you and considers you and plenty of naked time together with you as his priorities.
6. He makes an effort to set the mood
If he creates an atmosphere of seduction and takes the time to set the mood as well as be romantic leading up to sex then he is literally defining sex with you as important and not a casual fling (which would rarely absorb that kind of energy and attention from him).
Most especially, if he learns something specific about you that you like, such as a particular romantic gesture, or fragrance or colour, and incorporates it into his plan for time together, then you know he has listened to you, and is going to every effort to make you happy mentally, emotionally and physically in your sex life together. He’s wants you for more than sex!